InstaBlocked: Don't Follow the Fuckery

It's awkward running into people you've unfollowed on social media, not for lack of appreciation but for lack of enjoyment of content. I think it's of tantamount importance to acknowledge the nuances in emotion we experience towards people and how that informs our internet relations. We all have control over what we ingest on the internet. It's a new, nebulous realm of connection to navigate: it contains a portion of our psychic space. So let’s be direct: If you post nothing but self-deprecating posts, I have every right to unfollow you. If you have been talking about the same triggering issue for three months and I am tired of reliving my own trauma, you better believe imma unpress that button. It doesn't mean I dislike you or don't care about you. It means I'm taking control of my own psychic space, and doing what I can to reduce self-sabotaging behavior in a world where incessant scrolling has become a form of disconnected interaction.

A huge issue lies in the ignorance over thought power. Phones are powered by crystals. Hold a stone long enough and charge it with your thoughts and it'll transmit those vibrations to the next person to touch it. We transmit energy through these devices forgetting the power of imagery, energy, and emotion. So if you have Becky the frenemy on instagram and she's constantly on your page, filling herself with envy over what she thinks you're doing but liking all your pictures anyway, you might feel that energetic zap and unease if you're sensitive. You might wonder why you have dreams of her with snakes and sneaky cats, or why her compliments in your comments sound backhanded. Maybe it's because Becky's thoughts of outdoing you channel into her hand everytime she presses that little red heart.

I, personally, do not engage in the antics anymore.

There have been instances where I've extended warmth in these situations; acknowledging envy is a natural human emotion is important to me. It eradicates shame. But I've simultaneously had to acknowledge that other people's shame is not my responsibility if they still cannot control their own energy. I cannot make someone stop projecting their ideas of what happiness looks like onto me. I cannot coach them through not listening to the thoughts in their head that make them perceive me as their competition, nor will I fight off those thoughts manifested as people that see potential for drama from that situation.

But I sure can block them though.

I can definitely set up a psychic barrier that sends all of it right back though.

And in cases like this, people will cry hexes... But if I'm kindly rejecting what you directed at me, what does that say of what you sent?

It's the same for in-person interactions: as we become more sensitive as a species, we feel the complications in wavelength and energetics more explicitly. Some people feel like sky blue highs and others feel like ickiness and goodbyes. Some people make our tummies hurt, just by standing next to them. Others cause pain at sight and eye contact. Noticing and moving accordingly are two different things; we can be aware that when Annie says certain words we get a shudder in our bodies, but still choose to kick it with her. Or we can choose to see that whenever Stephanie hears you say something personal, you get a sharp pain in your heart, and so you stop spending time with her.

I'm of the awareness that what may be for you may not be for me, and vice versa. I've met people in this life who have done me dirty in others. They feel like pure, dead static to me while they feel like sunshine to others. I've met folks who felt like sunshine at first, but after we fulfilled our karmic contract the moon was revealed. And that's okay. Everyone has a role to play. Sometimes their healing and love with you is meant to "right" their "wrong" with me. Sometimes when two leeches team up, it's because they have to reflect at each other until both mirrors break and they choose to level up. We just have to be present in fulfilling our own roles instead of others.

We reclaim our intuitive power when we remember every interaction is a timeline waiting to happen. We choose what we want to experience, what we think we deserve, through the vibrations we tolerate and mix in with our own. This in itself is a form of alchemy: the mixing of social groups. I think very often we allow social customs and the notion of being "polite" to push us into places we don't want to be. I find myself very often in between these spaces, and usually the advocate against everyone's favorite because I'm more sensitive than most. And while I am not unkind, I do not let people get comfortable with the idea of my presence meaning more to them than it should. Let a leech seek friendship from you and they will milk every interaction for fear their supply is cut.

Manipulative vibrations have their own nasty glow.

When people do recognize the folks I predicted to be wolves in sheep's clothing, I prefer to replace "I told you so" with awareness for my piggies. Remember those signs, remember those feelings, remember those nudges from Spirit and honor them as pleas to avoid wasting your time, or opportunities to observe what you can get from the situation. How to set a boundary. But it can also teach us an even more valuable lesson: how to trust our own intelligence over the insistent nudging of the outside world. It is also excruciatingly important to review our own patterns of manipulation, and the ways we send these energies to others. Do not let the fact that you feel these things stop you from observing your own click frenzies! Unfollow people you obsess over! Catch yourself in the act of projecting and say "I undo this thought, and replace it with the hope that this person does well. May we both flourish, and may I remember my own brilliance every time I am on the verge of forgetting!" Don't skip the part where you ask yourself if you're seeing yourself reflected in someone else's actions. Stop filling yourself with other people's lives if it's not to engage with warmth!

There are people who click away and feed into constructed realities of folks who are malicious in person. We have all experienced it at one point or another. There are people who will fight to protect people they have never met, simply because they want to believe in the archetype that person presents (maybe even their own ability to be that). All this, because folks want to believe in construction as opposed to the hard truths of people that are really like that, who really vibrate like that and choose to call in cretinous behavior; in themselves and others. Sometimes it's easier to believe in folks who tout love and light and look like they're doing the work than to support someone that actually asks you to look at yourself, and change the ways you might be part of the problem. Sometimes we ignore our intuition to play into a game of internet activism; of brujas and bad bitches and spaces that were never safe to begin with. Because it validates us in our flaws. Until it claws your eyes out because you went to the wrong gathering, or shames you because you made space for someone they didn't fuck with. Until you realise the events were only created out of spite, not out of love for a community.

These patterns are counterproductive and do not advance us.

So please, after reflecting, deny entry of people who don't feel right into your life.

Do not go to that party with the person who selfishly chooses when they want access to you.

Do not give people the benefit of the doubt when that benefit makes you doubt your own sanity later. Block frenemies. Block people you feel sending you negative energy. Set up your psychic wards. Do your cord cutting. Cease to feed into these draining, pointless interactions so you can focus on nourishing and nurturing you, the way you're meant to. Alchemize a group of friends and associates that truly vibrate the way you want to vibrate. This does not mean that people are without their flaws: it means that they are willing to face them without facing you as the problem. Decide what relationships are actual reflections of you, and which ones are bitches just buggin.

So I challenge myself, and you; the next time someone you feel adversely about invites you into their space, offer one of these responses:

-Hey, I don't think now is a good time for us to connect.

-Thank you for offering, but I'm not comfortable with the idea of exchanging with you. I'm honoring my personal space at the moment and I don't see how we can be of growth to one another at the current time.

-I feel that this connection is more depleting than it is rejuvenating. I'm working to heal my internal patterns of () and I hope you are able to do the same.

-Is there something you'd like to tell me?

-I've been feeling a sense of unease about our friendship. Is there something you'd like to share with me?

-Before we see each other, I think we should have a candid talk.

Or no response, which is also adequate.

Sometimes it's not even necessary.